Who you are and what you believe you were shaped and influenced by your experiences as a child. An exercise that can be very insightful in understanding your unconscious beliefs is to analyze how your parents interacted with each other. In addition, reflect on the relationship you had with your parents. It's not so much what happened to you, but how he reacted and internalized experiences that are the key. These have influenced and shaped, created the foundation of all your relationships. Consider not to blame, but for understanding.
Ask probing questions gives information valuable in understanding the dynamics of the relationships that you have had. You communicate easily with your parents? They were judgmental or open? Place high expectations on you that you felt that you could ever meet, or were the Apple of his eyes which could do no wrong? How did they express their love to you? How did show your love for them? You feel that your parents accept your love easily and comfortably? Take the time to answer honestly. Awareness is the starting point that allows you to consciously change or accept your beliefs with clarity and choice.
A friend of mine complained that communicating with men was difficult. No matter how she knew what it meant, it never came out the way he intended. He was getting frustrated and helpless after talking to her partner of issues that were important to her. Nothing was ever resolved.
On reflection, that is exactly how it felt when it comes to his father. How far back you would remember, has always made you feel inadequate when speaking of him, turning everything you said it all. It felt like she never got what he wanted from conversations. My friend thinks that she couldn't communicate effectively, nor are the results i wanted with issues that were important to her. Underlying this belief had been totally unaware he had brought in all of its meaningful relationships. Once he realized this, she was able to take corrective action.
She found a man with whom she communicates easily and no longer feels unheard.
You may have been attracting people with whom you feel a certain comfort level based on unconscious memory since childhood. Understand how your relationship with your parents influenced their choices, values and beliefs is pivotal in moving forward. With deliberate preference and unwavering faith in your desires, you can attract a perfect Mr., Mrs. or MS. right for you.
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